A few years ago, my life changed when my dear friend Alex told me “I hate it when people say ‘I’m busy.’ What they’re really saying is that they have other things that are more important than me.”
The moment Alex said that, my mouth got dry because I realized I was one of those people.
If something or someone is important to you – you’ll make time. If not, cool. We all have to make choices. And what are choices other than our personal priorities?
I’d be lying if I said the word “busy” has never come out of my mouth since my conversation with Alex. However, her statement made me rethink the term. Instead of saying “I’m busy” I replaced it with “that isn’t a priority to me.”
“No, I can’t hang out because it isn’t a priority to me.”
“No, I can’t volunteer because it isn’t a priority to me.”
“No, I’m not doing laundry because it isn’t a priority to me.”
Yeah, it kind of feels like poop – doesn’t it? Now imagine how it feels to ALL of our friends and family to hear “I’m busy” when they want to share time with us?
Now when people ask if I can do something, I don’t give them a million excuses BECAUSE NO ONE CARES ABOUT EXCUSES. Instead of giving my laundry list of reasons why I’m not making something a priority – I just answer with the first date I’m free. Unless you’re in the hospital, going to a funeral, have some medical issue, or you’ve just had a child – you can probably make time.
95% of the time – busy a choice. And if it’s a choice it’s within our control. And if we can control it, we should not put it on other people. Sure, you’re “busy.” This is America – EVERYONE IS BUSY. We have work, kids, pets, games, volunteering, Netflix, cleaning….. it goes on.
So don’t tell me you’re busy, just let me know you have other priorities.